“I’m curious about who you are, who you’ve been, and who you hope to become.”
What was your path to becoming a therapist? What inspired you to choose this profession?
I’ve been interested in people my whole life. Whoever you are, I want to learn more about you — truly. My experiences on the other side of the couch have also been transformative. It’s how I knew I wanted to do this work, and it was some of the best training I’ve ever had. I respect how hard it is to be vulnerable and open up to someone you don’t know. I’ve also always had a desire to help people better understand each other. As a kid, I was the one who would help friends see the other side during disagreements. I’ve honed this skill in my training and I love helping couples improve their communication and strengthen their relationships.
You also work as a coach. What’s your area of focus there?
As a coach, I focus on weddings, the transition to marriage, and creating healthy relationships. Clients who see me before their weddings often want help with decision making and ensuring that their wedding aligns with their values. I offer people getting married a space where they can make sense of surprising feelings that come up. When I do coaching with couples, I focus on communication and premarital counseling. If my clients are already married, I'll help them improve communication, strengthen their connection, and create a partnership filled with meaning.
What would you want someone to know about working with you?
If we’re meeting one-on-one, I want to get to know who you really are (as much as you’re comfortable sharing). I’m curious about who you are, who you’ve been, and who you hope to become. What’s working, and what’s not working? You take the lead and I move at your pace. It’s my job to help you explore what’s keeping you in holding patterns and to help you make the changes you’re looking for. When I work with couples, I take great care to be fair and even-handed. I want you and your partner to feel heard, and I want to give you the tools to connect and communicate in a way that’s effective and feels good. I am sex-positive, LGBTQ+ affirming, and open to all types of relationship configurations.
If there was one thing you wish people knew about the therapy experience who might be hesitant to try it, what would that be?
If you are a human being, you can benefit from therapy. Does everyone “need” therapy? No. But it makes me sad when I hear people say that things aren’t bad “enough” to warrant talking to a therapist. I’ll work with you if things are really bad, but I’d also love to work with you before things get to that point. With couples, I wish people knew they didn’t have to be on the brink of breaking up or in crisis to benefit from talking to someone. I love helping couples move their communication from good to great, and their togetherness from close to closer.
Why weddings? What can couples or individuals gain from seeing a coach during the planning process?
The wedding ceremony and reception are incredibly meaningful because they are about the commitment you’re making to one another. As a coach, I’m there to support the commitment itself. Everyone getting married should have as much support around their relationship as they have around the event planning, hair and makeup, or suiting and styling. We focus so much on the externals of the wedding day, but having someone on your team who is there to support and nurture your relationship is an important investment in your future. I help you put the focus on the inner parts of this life transition, and it can alleviate a lot of the stress leading up to your wedding day. It also sets you up for a successful marriage long after your wedding guests have gone home.
“We focus so much on the externals of the wedding day, but having someone on your team who is there to support and nurture your relationship is an important investment in your future.”