“I know what it’s like to regain your sense of self, and I want to help you find it, too.”
What was your path to becoming a therapist? What inspired you to choose this profession?
I grew up in a diverse, multicultural city and was interested in learning about the backgrounds of different people and how they saw the world. I was especially drawn to the innate human ability to overcome adversity, to move through conflicts or challenges and achieve empowerment. Through my training and practice, I've learned to help clients see through the problem in front of them and equip them with positive ways of coping and tools for self-expression.
What would you want someone to know about working with you?
Whether you are brand new to therapy or coming back to it, my focus is entirely on you. It's important that you feel supported and comfortable. I meet you where you are in the present moment, and together we'll explore your past experiences and work toward future goals, whether you want to focus on something specific or explore overlapping influences in your life. As someone living with an invisible chronic illness, I know what it’s like to receive a diagnosis and navigate a “new normal” of living with a disease or disability. More importantly, I know what it’s like to regain your sense of self, and I want to help you find it, too.
How does collaboration with other providers play into your work?
There's an interconnection between body and mind. Our physical health affects our mental health, and vice versa. My own diagnosis of chronic illness has given me direct experience with this, and it's paramount in my practice. I collaborate with psychiatrists and medical professionals to create the most effective treatment plan for my clients.
If there was one thing you wish people knew about the therapy experience who might be hesitant to try it, what would that be?
Therapy isn't a place you go to seek answers directly from a therapist. It's a mutual collaboration. It's a safe space where you can feel accepted, and where it's safe to discuss things you might otherwise be afraid to address. Therapy is essential to overall well-being. People tend to think of therapy as something you seek out after a crisis. While that's often the impetus for seeking treatment, therapy can be just as beneficial when the walls don't seem to be caving in. There's nothing taboo about wanting to talk through challenges or acknowledging the desire for help.
If you could pick one or two books that influenced your approach to therapy what would they be and why?
I am very interested in books about living with people who have personality disorders, such as psychopaths and narcissists. Dr. Karyl McBride’s Will I Ever Be Good Enough?, Shannon Thomas’ Healing From Hidden Abuse, and Dr. Robert Hare’s Without Conscience: The Disturbing of the Psychopaths Among Us are fascinating and powerful books. Often, when living with a narcissist, there is a cycle: one may grow up with a parent who has narcissistic personality disorder, only to break away from their parent and unknowingly marry or began a relationship with another narcissist. Books such as these are helpful in understanding relationships and the roles of people around you in the patterns of your life. By recognizing that you are not alone and becoming aware of these patterns, you can regain your own strength and sense of self. You can cleanly cut ties with relationships that aren't in your best interest.
“There's nothing taboo about wanting to talk through challenges or acknowledging the desire for help.”
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