“We are wired to connect and that it’s our relationship with our self and those most important to us that form the blueprint to building one’s best life.”
What was your path to becoming a therapist? What inspired you to choose this profession?
My first career was as a photographer and designer. I worked to capture the human experience through the visual image. Standing in the middle of Fifth Avenue watching the Twin Towers fall on 9/11 shifted my desire from capturing human experiences to better understanding and, hopefully, improving it. I worked to understand how we can feel the most safe, grounded, connected, and free in a chaotic world. Reading, research, and clinical work have taught me that we are wired to connect and that it’s our relationship with our self and those most important to us that form the blueprint to building one’s best life.
What would you want someone to know about working with you?
During our first session, we will begin to get to know each other. I am active and engaged in the room, working to understand your experiences and goals. I believe that the past informs the present. We will spend some time getting a sense of your upbringing, family history, and origin story not to get stuck there, but rather to connect the dots forward and better understand your current patterns and dynamics. I believe that overall wellbeing encompasses good physical and mental health, and that self-care practices such as yoga and meditation can be powerful adjuncts to talk therapy.
What does your work with couples tend to look like?
The couples I work with are often looking for ways to effectively navigate through hurt and deepen their relationship. It is hard and vulnerable work to lean in, reach out your hand, and continue to find and foster loving connection. Together, we will work to identify negative patterns and shift them so each person can feel more heard and supported, and so that better decisions can be made. When you come to see me, we will engage in a collaborative and dynamic process. I will help you to deepen your connection to yourself and the things that matter most to you. I believe that good mental health, connected relationships, and effective work-life integration are basic essentials for wellbeing, health, and happiness.
If there was one thing you wish people knew about the therapy experience who might be hesitant to try it, what would that be?
Mental health treatment has been stigmatized for so long, yet good mental health is essential for a whole, connected life. Leaning into vulnerability allows one to better understand and connect with what is most important. It is through softening our drive for perfection, aligning with our values, and letting go of judgment that we can continue to build our best life and strengthen relationships.
If you could pick one or two books that influenced your approach to therapy what would they be and why?
My two current favorite books are Mindset by Carol Dweck and Daring Greatly by Brené Brown. Both speak to the power of taking risks and how to best continue to learn and grow when faced with challenges in order to live an authentic life.
“I believe that good mental health, connected relationships, and effective work-life integration are basic essentials for wellbeing, health, and happiness.”
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